Comments on: Love on the Move: How Tinder is changing the way we date

By: Red Kernstin Leongson

Red Kernstin Leongson — Wed, 09 Mar 2022 13:08:56 +0000

This article is interesting to read! As someone who had personal experience of trying dating apps, I can highly relate to this matter even though I am a woman, which is different from the subject of this article which is men. Since dating apps became more of an example of people-pleasing apps that are based on the appearances in line with the certain standards being projected by society these days, average-looking people are sort of shoved into the shadow as only the ones who are attractive looking people get those right swipes. I think that these apps sort of disregarded the idea of having the conversation first, which is an important part of relationship-building dynamics. And it is indeed a gender issue as these things are still rampant in the online dating society.

On the second thought, I agree with one of the statements where it says, “I’m not suited to this app. I’m trying to find the right phrase but like the profiles that you think would get like high likes because of certain things they put in isn’t really me and I don’t try and do it. I also just think I’m more traditional in so far as I like to bump into someone at a bar or room across- eyes across a room that’s how I actually connect with people because I think half of meeting someone the fun is body language like reading little bits of body language.” Being able to try a similar app was quite an experience yet I realized that I preferred meeting people, especially for romantic (or platonic) purposes in person. Like the idea of meeting them in a certain place or event, rather than online, since we have this internet identity which is sometimes a whole different persona of what we are in online. And with that, I seconded the motion of the particular person on being able to connect with someone personally than on online sites.

By: Vianca Soriano

Vianca Soriano — Tue, 22 Jan 2019 03:00:01 +0000

In this day and age, it seems as though more and more millennials have chosen to use social media to find love rather than the traditional way. Although many people have opinions on if that is the right way to get a partner, many believe it is okay. In my opinion I believe it is ones personal choice whether or not they resort to apps to find companionship. It eventually becomes addicting. Creating a
Personally, I believe it creates a world of opportunity to make new friends. Opening up a realm of possibilities and relationships that can lead to anything from platonic and intellectual to sexual and temporary. With the capability of having control of whether or not you would want to continue with someone gives confidence that may not be acquired in the real world.
On the contrary, men have it a little worse than men. While this article states that men produce anxiety that they may not have had before going on dating apps, male users, become frustrated over the need to make themselves as desirable as can be. People may not always be who they are. They create personas that make themselves seem more gratifying. Sadly, people as well tend to lie. Building a relationship on a lie tends to backfire. Yet, I believe that by being smart and cautious many situations may be avoided.

By: VinN

VinN — Wed, 29 Nov 2017 00:06:00 +0000

Thanks Livia, this article is thought-provoking to me. Actually, it remind me of some point in Evolutionary psychology, which is frequently mentioned by one of my friend. When we talk about love, he always use some views from evolutionary psychology to support his view. This article reflect one of the evolutionary psychology view that people tend to choose a partner according to their appearance because good looking often means genetic advantage. According to the theory, attractive appearance means less genetic disease and health body. Tinder may have a positive contribution to human future, to some extent.

By: swati sharma

swati sharma — Mon, 23 Oct 2017 08:32:00 +0000

A very interesting article to read.I believe that these apps (Facebook, tweeter, tinder ) are a good way of making new friends and connecting to your old friends which due to some reasons lost contacts. Whereas talking about love and making relationships, you can not trust a person simply through its profile. Firstly people make fake profiles to gain publicity , secondly you need to know a person personally to be in a relationship. Love is not a game its a bond for life and needs to be cherished which according to me can not be done through these sites or apps.

By: Swipe left, swipe right…get lucky tonight? – Saffie Speaks

Swipe left, swipe right…get lucky tonight? – Saffie Speaks — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 02:16:41 +0000

[…] However, what does this have to do with my pitch? It has everything to do with it. My star sign is Cancer, I’m very emotional and I just love the idea of love. Up until nearly two years ago, I was sure that I’d grow old and single. This wasn’t until I met my handsome man on Tinder! […]

By: Katherine Douglas

Katherine Douglas — Sat, 30 Sep 2017 09:36:00 +0000

Interesting article about finding love on the Internet, albeit published last year. I definitely think that apps (e.g. Tinder) and sites (e.g. eHarmony.com) have their place as a romance tool. They can connect many people to a variety of relationship types, when other initial means are few. People can build up a network of friends and possible matches fairly quickly, yes, to more that one person at a time. Certainly faster and more effective than family or friends setting you up.

However, this article is right – Tinder is too often based on a person’s outward appearance, or even what to say in your profile. Sometimes, in real life first impressions are not what they seem. A person might be good-looking, but not pleasant to be around, and vice versa. The good-looking, articulate people get more hits than the average ones, and yes, sometimes that’s not fair. A good match for someone doesn’t always have to be smooth-talking and handsome (although it’s nice!). Their are plenty of other great attributes, that will serve the relationship well.

Tinder also eliminates people completely once they are flicked away. This is not a reflection of real life, since you might well change your mind about dating someone – what happens then? Are people nothing more than objects to be flicked away if they don’t meet someone’s standards? Seems to encourage judgmentalism in my opinion – which is not a great trait for any long-term relationship!

Tinder is also not for everyone – the way it works, only certain people will choose to use dating apps, and their ideal match might not be the person who does use them.

On the whole, Tinder and other sites are great introductory tools, but should be taken with a grain of salt. Sometimes waiting a little while for someone in real life is worth it, too.